Lesson 6: Building New Habits
Objective:
Understand how habits are formed, why they are essential for self-discipline, and how to build new, positive habits that will support your goals.
What Are Habits?
Habits are automatic behaviours or actions that we perform regularly and often without thinking. They are ingrained in our routines and can be either positive or negative. Positive habits help us achieve our goals, while negative habits can hinder progress.
Habits are the foundation of self-discipline. When we build strong, consistent habits, they reduce the need for constant decision-making and willpower, allowing us to focus on larger goals.
The Science of Habit Formation
Habits are formed through a three-step process:
- Cue (Trigger):
The cue is the trigger that prompts you to start a behavior. It could be an emotional state, a specific time of day, or an external event.Example: Feeling stressed may trigger the habit of eating comfort food.
- Routine (Behavior):
The routine is the action or behavior you perform in response to the cue. It’s the actual habit you’re working to form or change.Example: Eating a snack when stressed is the routine.
- Reward:
The reward is the positive reinforcement you get from completing the behavior. It could be a feeling of satisfaction, relief, or pleasure.Example: The feeling of temporary comfort or relief after eating.
The cycle of cue → routine → reward reinforces the behavior, making it easier to repeat in the future.
How to Build New Habits
1. Start Small and Be Consistent
When starting a new habit, don’t try to change everything at once. Begin with small, manageable actions that are easy to integrate into your routine. Starting small makes it easier to build consistency.
Example:
- If your goal is to exercise, start by walking 10 minutes a day, then gradually increase the duration and intensity.
2. Use a Trigger or Cue
Choose a cue that already exists in your routine to remind you to perform the new habit. This could be an event or an action that already happens in your day.
Example:
- If you want to drink more water, place a glass of water on your desk every morning as a visual cue.
3. Make the Habit Enjoyable
Habits that are enjoyable or rewarding are easier to stick to. Try to incorporate elements that make the process more fun or fulfilling.
Example:
- If you want to read more, choose books that excite you, or set a cozy reading environment that you look forward to.
4. Track Your Progress
Use a habit tracker to monitor your consistency. Tracking helps reinforce the behavior and gives you a sense of accomplishment, even for small wins.
Example:
- Use an app or a calendar to mark off each day you successfully complete your habit.
5. Focus on Identity, Not Just Outcomes
Shift your focus from what you want to achieve to the type of person you want to become. When you identify as someone who is disciplined, your behavior will naturally align with that identity.
Example:
- Instead of focusing on “I want to lose weight,” say “I am a healthy person who takes care of my body.”
6. Be Patient and Allow Time
Habits don’t form overnight. Studies suggest it takes about 21 to 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic, depending on the complexity of the habit. Be patient and consistent, and you will see results over time.
Example:
- If you’re working on a new writing habit, aim to write every day for at least 30 days. By the end of the month, it will feel like a natural part of your routine.
7. Plan for Obstacles
Identify potential challenges or obstacles that might prevent you from sticking to your new habit. Have a plan in place for when things get difficult, such as adjusting your schedule or finding new motivations.
Example:
- If you plan to exercise every morning but struggle with early wake-ups, plan to sleep in your workout clothes or prepare your gym bag the night before.
Habit-Building Strategies
- Habit Stacking:
Habit stacking involves pairing a new habit with an existing one. This helps the new habit become associated with something you already do.Example:
- After brushing your teeth (existing habit), do 10 push-ups (new habit).
- The Two-Minute Rule:
Start with a habit that takes no more than two minutes. This makes it easy to get started, and over time, you can increase the duration.Example:
- If you want to read more, start by reading just one page a day. Once you get into the habit, you’ll naturally read more.
- Implementation Intentions:
Create a plan that specifies when, where, and how you will perform your new habit. The more detailed your plan, the more likely you are to follow through.Example:
- “I will meditate for 5 minutes every morning at 7 AM in my living room.”
- Use Accountability:
Share your goals with someone who can help keep you accountable. This could be a friend, family member, or online community.Example:
- If you’re trying to write every day, share your writing progress with a friend who can motivate you to stay on track.
Reflection Exercise
- Identify One New Habit to Build:
Think about an area of your life where you would like to develop a new habit. Write it down and make it specific.Example:
- “I want to wake up earlier to start my day with a positive morning routine.”
- Choose a Trigger or Cue:
Decide on a cue or trigger that will remind you to perform the new habit. It could be an existing habit, a time of day, or an event in your life.Example:
- “I will use the sound of my alarm as a trigger to get out of bed and stretch.”
- Create an Action Plan:
Outline the steps you’ll take to make your new habit stick. Start small, track your progress, and review regularly.Example:
- “I will stretch for 5 minutes every morning as soon as I wake up. I’ll track my progress on a habit tracker app.”
Quote for the Day
“Success is the product of daily habits—not once-in-a-lifetime transformations.” – James Clear
Quick Recap:
- Habits are automatic behaviours that are essential for building self-discipline.
- Start small, track your progress, and use cues and rewards to reinforce new habits.
- Be patient and persistent, as habits take time to form and become automatic.
Take Action Today:
Choose one small habit to build today and apply the habit-building strategies outlined in this lesson. The key to success is consistency!